Gay Rights: We Will Not Be Silenced!!!

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Let's jump right in shall we...

For those of you who haven't heard, David Caton; Executive Director of the Florida Family Association declared war on the gay community after his boycott began last week against LOGO channel's "Sordid Lives: The Series".
The show depicts the Ingram family and their friends who live in a small-town in Texas, whom each have a great deal of issues they need to resolve within themselves in order to truly live their own happy life. What you see on screen are how the obstacles these characters go through and their differences to one another actually forces them all to see each other for who and what they are and that it's not about what anyone else wishes them to be.
Simply put, this show is all about accepting people for who they are and loving oneself for what you are inside. "Sordid Lives" sends out a message of love and hope to all people that we are all the same and want to live our lives as happily as we can without fear of being judged by others.
Why David Caton has an issue with such a beautiful message, I don't understand. I mean after all, isn't he supposedly all about preaching love and protection of American families? What makes this show any less accurate in depicting a version of an American family, can anyone truly answer this for me? You've got a woman addicted to pain killers, another who doesn't ever get to live her own life because she's too busy picking up the pieces of her friends and family's 'sordid' escapades (LOL), to another who is in a mental institution. Hmmm yeah nothing about that wreaks American to me. How about you, what do you think? ;) The list goes on, but seriously what is Caton trying to say by speaking out against this specific program?
You can be sure if this was a program on a different network with all heterosexual characters and storylines, there would never have been any action taken against "Sordid Lives: The Series."
However, even more disturbing to me was the personal attacks made from David Caton to "Sordid" star Jason Dottley and show creator Del Shores. The two are married and have been a couple for many years now, however Caton made claims stating that Shores had left his wife and children for Dottley. Apparently, Caton doesn't take the time to get his facts together before spewing forth his immense hate onto everyone else. The fact remains that Del and his wife were divorced for just about a decade prior to him ever meeting Dottley and they were not married until 2003. Caton would like you all to believe that there was some sort of scandal surrounding the fallout of Del's marriage and responsibilities to his family, thereby insinuating that Jason Dottley is some kind of home wrecker who "recruited Del to the homosexual way of life". I seriously am laughing as I write this, because it is so unbelievably stupid to me that people who claim to want to protect the "American Family" are doing exactly the opposite by causing unnecessary drama and making false accusations to a loving couple and their family.
In response to Caton's false statements and boycott of the show, Jason Dottley followed up with a video he posted on youtube in which he called David Caton personally to clarify the situation that had been developing. Apparently Caton has a great deal to learn about manners and human decency, because he simply hung up the phone without speaking to Jason. In the end Jason left a voicemail that has yet to be responded to with an apology or anything.
David Caton has spent the last week encouraging anyone who will listen to boycott the show, send emails expressing their disappointment to the companies that support it, and also not to invest in any of their products. He has been against the LOGO channel for some time now, and he claims that any child with a remote can simply watch the GLBT programming that airs on such a channel. Hey David NEWSFLASH it's called parental control settings, USE THEM!
I have actually been in touch with Dottley and Shores via email recently and while I prefer more interpersonal forms of communications than that, being on opposite ends of the country it's difficult to meet face to face... but you do what you can. So I am speaking out on their behalf and for myself in support of "Sordid Lives: The Series" in saying that OUR TIME IS NOW! The David Caton's of this world must not and will not silence us. We are just as American as everyone else, and deserve television programs and films that depict the variety of hardships members of the gay community go through. I will post a variety of links at the bottom of this entry including Jason Dottley's youtube video link for all of you who would like to follow through and support our right to be heard and recognized in television and film.
:::In support and honor of Jason and Del:::
LOVE YOU GUYS!!!!
http://www.logoonline.com/shows/dyn/sordid_lives/series.jhtml
http://www.mylifetime.com/on-tv/movies/prayers-bobby
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nu1Tz8ITJBw&feature=channel_page
BREAK THE SILENCE!
Stay Tuned,
DishThis!

Gay Rights: OUR TIME IS NOW!!!

Happy 2009 to all of my 'DishThis' readers. I know it has been a couple of months since my last post, however no worries because here I am with a great deal to talk about.
First I would like to say, how amazing it is to see how united our country has become. Whether or not you voted for Barack Obama, it really does not matter because this feeling of being connected to one another is being felt by all of us. Here's to the future of this incredible nation!
That being said I would like to get into the main subject of this piece... GAY RIGHTS!
As you all know from reading my previous 'DishThis' piece, last November every GLBT citizen of this country was officially branded as second-class citizens. Since that unfortunate decision came to be, there has been a tremendous upheaval in the gay community. We are showing the world who we are and that we will not be silent or allow our rights as American citizens be stripped away from us! Every week since election day there have been numerous events held in the hopes of spreading awareness over the injustice that was cast amongst our community.
We've had the 'call in gay to work day', an event held in December in which everyone from gay to straight and everything in between would not go into work, nor would they go shopping. The purpose being to show the magnitude of the gay community's importance in this country and how we are an integral part of its nourishment and deserve the same rights as every heterosexual male and female.
There was a march on city hall in NYC the week following the election to show our community's outrage at the passing of Proposition 8, which repealed all gay marriages and made it illegal for us to marry the one we love and truly live our lives freely. The turnout was absolutely amazing, and we definitely were heard across the nation.
Even internet based events have become a booming avenue for us to tap into and reach those who cannot attend the previous events in person. We currently have 3 internet based events going on that will most definitely make an impact in our fight for EQUALITY!
The entertainment world has certainly been noticed for it's most recent film releases that depict the variety of struggles that face each member of our community. Such notable titles being 'Milk', and tonight's Red Carpet premiere of 'Prayers For Bobby.' Both of these films were so astonishing and inspirational, that you can't help but feel the tears build up in your eyes. These films and many more to come will undoubtedly shape the viewpoints and opinions of those who haven't truly been exposed to what it is we seek and what we go through to simply be treated as a member of the human race.
As I come to the conclusion of this entry, I would first like to thank all of my regulars for continuing to email me in my recent absence and assure you that I will be posting quite regularly from this point forward. This piece is actually the first in a series, so stay tuned!
I will be posting a few links at the bottom of this 'Dish' that are my most frequent and valued sites geared towards the awareness and fight for equal rights amongst GLBT America.
http://www.glaad.org/
http://www.hrc.org/
http://www.marriageequalityny.org/
http://www.thetrevorproject.org/
Just remember... OUR TIME IS NOW!!!
Always Love,
DishThis!

Continuing the Fight Against Intolerance In America!!!

Hello Everyone,

DishThis! has been on hiatus for a while but is proud to be back and standing strong. Let's get right to it shall we...

Election 2008 has come and gone and after what seemed like an eternity of disappointments for this country, we can all finally rejoice that "CHANGE" has come to America. That change is Barack Obama! As he stated, "the road ahead will be a long one", but I must say never in my life have I ever felt so proud to be an American. The sense of unity I felt after Obama won the presidency, and seeing the aftermath of people's excitement truly made me cry. It felt as if we all became one, something I never thought I personally could ever feel let alone witness firsthand.

However, while my excitement over the election would last for quite a few days my tears of joy I shed the previous evening would turn to sadness after hearing about the passing of Proposition 8 in California. America took a major step and certainly made history with the election of Barack Obama, and in the same moment we took a giant step back. The banning of gay marriage has officially stamped homosexuals as being second class citizens. California was not the only state banning gay marriage however, Arizona, Arkansas, and Florida also passed their own bans on gay marriage. Arkansas took it a step farther by also making it illegal for unmarried gay couples to adopt or foster children. Talk about being a second class citizen and trapping homosexuals into a corner. Do you really think we would take this lying down or that we would not be heard?

As we speak there are rallies and protests being orchestrated for the months ahead to overturn these unlawful stripping of our civil liberties. We will regain these rights and we are just as American as any close-minded heterosexual. The fact that the majority of the donations given to support Prop 8 were from the Roman Catholic Church and Mormons totaled about 38.5 million dollars makes me sick. All that money donated to take away the rights of American citizens when we could use those funds to help with AIDS or breast cancer research or fighting world hunger, etc. The list just goes on, and it is really quite sad and comical that these people claim all they want and are attempting to do is protect the sanctity of marriage. I really do laugh, because they are seriously misguided here! The sanctity of marriage, wow they really need to look at themselves with that one don't you think?

My feeling... we definitely don't care about who you love or how you love them and what you do, so why don't you live your own lives and leave us in peace to do the same! Why do you feel it is necessary to judge me and the way I live my life? You talk about protecting marriage and American families from becoming corrupt or skewed somehow and that legalizing gay marriage would do such a thing as send a type of "wrong" message, well how about this... You want to protect the sanctity of marriage by not permitting homosexuals to marry, well in that case why don't we go ahead and pass a law making it illegal for heterosexuals to get divorced. Why should heteros be permitted to marry and divorce as many times as they'd like and have children with as many people as they'd like? Don't you think that is taking advantage of the right to marry and frankly ruining the true meaning of marriage!

The Roman Catholic Church for years now has been in the middle of a huge scandal regarding the molestation of young boys by members of their community. A scandal that continues to shell out settlements to its victims in the millions, however to date these settlements have reached well into the tens of billions of dollars total. So just so I am seeing all of this correctly, you are not only donating money and fighting to prevent homosexuals from having equal rights, but you are also shelling out "hush" money to the victims of your appointed priests just to keep it as under the radar as possible that they themselves have not only participated in homosexual acts but that they took advantage of young boys and sexually abused them. How interesting that you who oppose gay rights are claiming we are destroying America and the so called dream of what it means to be an American, we are not the ones using positions of power to molest children and then offer financial settlements as an avenue of getting away with it. We are just as American as heterosexuals and regarding you close-minded people out there... I will say it right now, we are more American than you, because we believe in equal rights for all races, religions, and sexual orientations. We love freely, and if you knew how to do that it is then you would truly know what it is to be not only a citizen of the United States of America but a citizen of the human race!

Thank you to all of my readers, and to those who have been supporting gay rights... keep fighting and remember together we will be triumphant and will most definitely overcome! Victory will be ours, and we will crush intolerance in America.

Be who you are and love freely, and always...

- DishThis!

The DISH Is BACK!

Hello readers - been on a hiatus last couple of months but I'm back and got the scoop and ready to DishThis! :)

So lets get right to it shall we, life is at a standstill at the moment but I'm getting through it doing my thing yada yada yada. Just been taking the time lately to come to terms with some of the people in my life and whether or not they belong. It is quite sad how easily people take advantage and break trusts for no reason whatsoever. Whether it's friends or family people will fuck with you given the chance and play one party against the other just to further their agenda.
Life really is too short for games, and in this world it's a fact that playing games is necessary to survive. I never believed that, but like the old saying goes "times change and people do too." And this person is certainly changing and is done being mister nice guy, time to get ruthless.

In terms of friendship, it's been a true awakening lately seeing just who and what people are all about especially those who claim to care about me and cherish my presence in their life. Yeah umm... BULLSHIT! If people truly care about you, then they'd contact you sooner knowing that you're leaving town. Nothing like getting voicemails and text messages at the last minute asking "are you still alive, are you still in NY?" If you really gave a shit then you wouldn't allow the entire summer to pass without contacting me and getting together for drinks or whatnot. The worst was a once upon a time best friend of mine who had a falling out with me because they did not like my boyfriend. Whatever the reasoning behind it was and that my ex did turn out to be a fucking scumbag, bottomline is I've been single for almost one year now and regardless of my attempts to re-establish our friendship whether it be though emails or phone calls, they've gone unanswered. The final nail in the coffin was when a couple of weeks ago I had stopped by her place to say my goodbyes and the door went unopened. Mind you everybody was home, and they chose to ignore me. Way to be adult about things and starting over right! Oh well that's that, very sad I wish her the best and will always have a place for her in my heart, but I did all I could to start fresh. I'm always meeting new people anyway so moving on... :)

In terms of family, well it's supposed to be that you can rely on them and trust them with anything but lately I've discovered that sometimes that is not the case. I'll always be there for them but deep down I would rather take care of my life on my own without any contribution from them because with that comes unnecessary drama. The sad part about it, is that due to the complicated relationships of those that make up the generation that came prior to myself and my siblings and our cousins, there is no healthy way for any of us to have a relationship with one another. The insane drama that exists between these people is ridiculous and frankly its pathetic. My mother finds out she has a few aneurysm in her brain and suddenly everyone starts calling and or showing up at the hospital for "moral support." Give me a fucking break you're showing up so that way you can look at yourself in a mirror or go to sleep at night thinking of yourself as being a caring and concerned family member. If you truly gave a damn then you wouldn't gossip behind one another and drag the children into your web of lies and deceit. How about just calling to say hello and not only make an appearance when there is a family tragedy and or crisis brewing, ever think of that? Some people need to get off their pedestals and realize that the family you made for yourself is no better than ours and no matter what any of us end up doing with our lives, at the end of the day I can go to sleep knowing I never compare what I do or will become in the future with what it is your child claims to want to do with their lives. I love my family and wish them the best but seriously blood is not always everything, and when the time comes I'll make my own family and those who matter will be a part of my life and those who frankly aren't worth my time... well you'll know it.

Hope all my readers are doing well, it's good to be back - I've missed you all.

DishThis! : Ruthless Edition has begun!

Sexuality: "Straight" Men Who SUCK {Literally}

Let's get right to it, but just to remind my readers... ALL names have been changed to protect the not so innocent :) Okay that being said here we go...

So some say there's always a gray area in terms of sexuality and okay to a degree I'll admit it is possible. But lets be real here people, a guy who puts a cock in his mouth and considers taking it up the ass is GAY!

I mean it's one thing for a "straight" guy (in this case Thom) who hasn't gotten laid in a long while to have a gay guy give him head, but when Thom is horny to the point where he is willing to suck and take a load in his mouth... well yeah that's a homosexual in my book! As if that wasn't enough, I don't care how insanely horny any "straight" guy is... once they consider taking it up the ass well um do I need to say anything more here? LOL I'm all for diversity and people experimenting but c'mon Thom is GAY! Not the first time for him either, so just look at yourself and accept what and who you are. In the end it will be the most liberating experience of your life and the beauty of coming out of the closet is... you only do it once! Good luck dude.

Moving on... another so called "straight" guy (in this case Carmine) who's very much in the social circle...lol. Well let's just say yet again a classic case of wondering when "a gray area becomes a gay area." haha I'm curious what would you think if a supposed "straight" guy for over a year continued to text you and so forth to hangout late at night to mess around? Well seems like a homosexual to me, and while Carmine wasn't as orally fixated as Thom he certainly couldn't get enough of oral from a guy that's for sure! Carmine was very handsy let's put it that way and was adamant after he shot off that nobody even know the two of them had hung out together let alone had even spoken to one another. Classic case of a guy not wanting to be labeled as gay for the simple fact of whom he associates himself with. LOL here's a tip Carmine... you don't want people to think you're gay well maybe you shouldn't be taking your clothes off with another man! Just a suggestion hunni.

However, even more fascinating are the social connections between Carmine, his ex-girlfriend, and the friends/family of all parties involved in this little triangle. Carmine I'm curious out of ALL of the gay men around... why the fuck would you choose a gay guy to hookup with that is a mutual friend of every single person in your life? LOL - sounds like ya trying to out yourself babe! I wonder how long before it all comes out amongst the populous... it will definitely be an interesting mass of emotions all around thats for sure. Good luck with the aftermath bro.

Sexuality most definitely has a gray area, but most often than not in terms of male sexuality it ends up being not so gray. Just with Thom and Carmine alone it's apparent the two have yet to accept themselves for who they are, and while we all come out in our own ways and in our own time these two seem to be doing whatever possible to have themselves be outed rather than actually having to say it. I wish em both luck even tho Carmine is a total scumbag piece of shit, LOL.

But being serious, in the end bottom line is that the gray area that seems to surround male sexuality always ends up being a gay area. End of story so save everyone the frustrations and yourselves the self-loathing and embrace who you are.

Until next time... DishThis!

Dating, Relationships, Sex - OH MY!

The title says it all, but isn't it interesting that dating and relationships always seem to be so tedious while sex is a bit simpler and direct?

I mean think about it with dating and relationships there are always questions and things that have to be figured out so to speak, however sex is sex period! You have two people (okay sometimes maybe three or four and so on you get the point LOL) but traditionally speaking you've got two people and in the end the goal is to get off. It's simple, to the point, direct... that's the extent of it.

Those of you who truly know me, know that I have always been the relationship type and deep down I still hope to have that. However, lately I've been opening myself up to a variety of different ideas to maybe broaden my scope of what constitutes a relationship and if it is possible to separate sex and emotions and relationships.

Sometimes maybe a kiss is simply just a kiss, a physical act between people in need of some form of comfort. Do there have to be emotions involved when kissing and/or fucking? Can you really differentiate the two? I used to connect the sex with the relationship, but after my experiences with dating and relationships, I sadly am questioning whether or not you can have it all. Bottom line is I'm human and have urges and needs, what my biology is craving does not match the morals and standards I have for myself. I guess you could say I'm at a crossroads and are not sure which way to go.

In a time when STD's and HIV infection is on the rise, I find it sickening the amount of sexual promiscuity that's out there and don't get me started on the bareback sex okay. If there's ever sex to be had without a rubber, it's when you're in a committed and monogamous relationship and even then you really shouldn't. I mean c'mon people my ex and I were together for what about 4 years and he fucked everything up because he couldn't keep his dick in his pants so chances of me ever trusting a guy and doin' it bareback again are slim to none at this point. DAMN IT!!! lol

But all jokes aside how the fuck are any of us supposed to get out there and date and possibly start a relationship and share a life with someone when there's such a lack of respect amongst the populous for one another and themselves? We'll see where the road takes me, but until then I'm curious...where do you all stand on the 'sex with or without a relationship scale'?

DishThis!

Friend or Frenemy?

We all have friends and some of us even have frenemies, however is it possible to not recognize who's who anymore? Or even more puzzling, is it possible for a frenemy to become a friend?

These are just some of the things that have popped into my mind lately as I prepare for a new chapter in my life. Some of my closest friends who have a great deal of things going on (good, bad, and extremely ugly) do not seem to be making any progress no matter how much I try and help when they ask. I care about them and their lives but not to sound selfish "I have a great deal of things going on too!" I feel as if no matter what anyone ever says to anyone else, they will in the end do whatever they deem necessary to make themselves happy. Even if that means making the wrong decision for the long-run.

For example:
(ALL names have been changed to protect the not so innocent, LOL)
My friend Jeffrey hasn't called me in like 2 weeks and we haven't seen one another in about a month. To me this is unacceptable because the two of us since we met have been like "two peas in a pod." All of this seemed to change overnight when apparently his boyfriend Chaz (second time around for them mind you) made it known that there's a bit of jealousy on his part regarding the friendship Jeffrey and I have together. Neither one of us understood where the jealousy came from, but nevertheless since then our interaction with one another has completely disappeared. Then I magically get a phone call and he was crying and telling me how shitty things have been and how much he misses me and that it seems he and Chaz are breaking up but they don't. So two hours on the phone and I was able to calm him down a bit and have him go to sleep and have a fresh start the following day. Then a few days go by and he tells me that everyday they seem to have been breaking up and then 2 hours later they talk and get back together (yeah that's a great stable relationship right!) but I digress. Anyway the final straw came when I received a text message saying "I'm trying to get my life back on track its nothing anyone did I just need time. So I'm not carrying around my phone or talking to anyone. I will talk to people when I am ready. I'm sorry hunni, ttys." I get that sometimes people need time but give me a break I'm one of your best friends and you put me on hold so to speak... FUCK THAT! As if that wasn't bad enough he deleted his MySpace, and no longer has an email address either. Talk about hiding from the world, now there's no way to reach him.

Well all I can say is hopefully he figures things out and realizes what he does and does not need in his life. Sooner rather than later because shortly I'll be shall we say relocating. (that's a story for a future blog though) Bottomline here is that Jeffrey is still a dear friend of mine however to me it looks like he chose his jealous boyfriend over our friendship and that hurts. You'd think after the "Sex and the City" phenomena people would remember the truest of relationships are those held with your dearest friends because boyfriends/girlfriends come and go, but real friends are there forever!

Stay tuned for more entries into the "Friend or Frenemy?" series which will include more exploits of the people in my life.
Until then... DishThis!